CAUTION
One in Caution relates through refining how you think of your relationships/experiences- and building a sense of
security/safety for how you express yourself to others or let them express parts of themselves to you.
It is about the form others take in your relationships.
You grow intimacy through building your confidence, inner security & sense of safety when with others.
And it’s important for you to clarify your intentions in pursuing something while revealing yourself at a personal pace.
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NEGATIVE SPECTRUM
-Phobia sets in when you form irrational and extreme aversions to anyone/thing that triggers you- as you seek only to recoil+distance from or explode+destroy those "triggers" because of your inability to further refine your thoughts about those things (aka. analysis-paralysis).
You simply and often refuse to take responsibility for what you've allowed to happen or created/expressed in your relationship or experience- that doesn't represent your "intentions". So your over-thinking of the form things are taking begins to scare you- leading you to lash out, freeze or shut down.
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Caution has a built-in sense of Identity-Integration with others, as you easily & often secretly connect and resonate with the form others express to you.
So when you feel that comfortable form you've attached to has been lost, or you can't monitor your expression around that person/thing you're bonding with anymore- a deep desire for sources of familiarity and safety can result, hidden behind your Phobia/Paranoia.
SLIDING
When you fall into -Phobia, you begin to -Oppress- rising up with heavy thoughts, beliefs and expressions that seek to restrict and conform your triggers into more disempowering/distanced stances.
To move into +Deliberation, you must return +Authority over your thoughts+expressions instead, by owning & taking responsibility for the results and impact that they are having on you & everyone else- or at least removing yourself from any triggers to create a space for doing this.
This then allows for the Presence of new, more healthy thoughts and a clearer mind.
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You can also return a sense of +Clarity by choosing to deliberately participate in your relationship/experience & work on seeing+understanding all their facets as parts of the whole- rather than let your phobias distance you into a disconnected -Surveillance of everything.
POSITIVE SPECTRUM
A shift into +Deliberation means you slow down your thoughts so you can consciously consider the intentions & rationale in how you relate, navigate, nurture and understand your experiences and relationships.
This then helps you sort through your life to form very specific standards & parameters for what+who you actually have interest in relating to, and how you wish to relate to those in the first place.
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When you've clarified your intentions behind why you're creating/allowing a relationship or pursuit, you begin to feel "safe" in that structure and can build upon revelations.
And rather than fuel the instinct to fight, flight or freeze, you form relationships and goals with much deliberation- carefully selecting thoughts+expressions that consider fears but discern between the truth of the matter and the unwarranted fearful triggers: allowing sensibility and insight to evolve.
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ATTRACTION & WOUNDING
Caution is most attractive to others for providing a space of safety where all can comfortably express themselves as they are- nurturing a state of trust in life/each other.
You attract then, to finding any Common Ground in Motives/Motivations- getting to know others Goals & admiring how complete they are, so you can safely eliminate your boundaries knowing their intentions.
This means you're most wounded when you suddenly feel paralyzed and unsafe in a relationship- unable to "let your guard down", or feeling that the intentions & motivations that once secured your comfort in a relationship have been completely lost or destroyed.
To heal, it can help if you display who you are & what you believe in now, so you can attract others to share the same and discover their motivations as well.
This would help you create/return to a Sense of Safety, even if it isn't the state you initially desired- because you can clarify to the best you can any confusing intentions, and choose how to nurture the relationship from there.